when Baby M was 4 weeks old he was diagnosed as having a milk protein intolerance. milk proteins are whey and casein, not lactose! prior to this he had an awful diaper rash all.the.time, was constantly fussy (more so than your average fussy/colic baby) and was having trouble sleeping. oh and his poop looked like green slime, like on nickelodeon. it was mucous, strands of it. very weird. his pedi had us test the diapers for blood and they all came back positive even though I never saw any blood. blood in the stool of a newborn, I was told, is most likely related to a dairy intolerance and that 65% of babies intolerant of dairy protein are also intolerant of soy protein. I was devastated! yet relieved that we now had a reason for all the things Baby M was experiencing. since I was nursing Baby M the pedi said I had to stop eating all dairy and all soy. that meant ALL dairy – baked dairy/hidden dairy which some kids can tolerate but M couldn’t. there is mixed info out there in regards to eliminating soy lecithin and soybean oil, since technically they aren’t the protein and BTW are in EVERYTHING, but our GI doc felt strongly that those should be eliminated as well. if a product contains lecithin or oil it doesn’t need to be labeled as CONTAINS: SOY per the FDA for allergen labeling, FYI! it was very hard to eliminate all dairy and soy, but I did! it was also hard to find information and I spent hours scouring the internet. After just 1 week of the diet, Baby M was already SO much better. By 3 weeks his diapers finally stopped testing positive for blood. it takes upwards of 4 weeks for all the dairy protein to get out of yours and the babies system. so for some it can take quite sometime before seeing a change in the baby.
when I had an unexpected drop in milk supply at 4 months old and we discovered Baby M hadn’t gained weight in 3 weeks (he was 10 lbs 9oz at 4 months, 7lbs 5 oz at birth and always struggled with very low/poor weight gain….. low milk supply story for another time!) we started giving him similac alimentum formula as a supplement. which is what was recommended by his GI doc. (P.S. it contains soybean oil!) I have heard of some babies not being able to tolerate the powder version and doing better on the liquid/ready to feed version better b/c the ingredients are slightly different. M did fine on the powder and was on it until 14 months. the pedi wrote a prescription and that way we could fill it through the pharmacy rather than just buying it from the formula aisle and it was covered by insurance! when we had blue cross we got 11 cans per month (40 oz per day) for FREE/no co pay! it is $28 a can. the liquid version is even more expensive. when we had to switch insurances to united healthcare we had to start paying $40 per month for 11 cans. still a good deal!!!! and we were able to use FSA $$$ to pay the co pay.
at 9.5 months I gave Baby M some yogurt. his pedi said it was OK, though his GI doctors said to wait until 12 months. WELL it did not go well!!! the results were no appetite for solids and non stop watery diarrhea for NINE DAYS!!!!!!!!!! it was awful. both doctors insist that he will eventually grow out of this, that it isn’t an allergy and that we will just have to try again.
at 11 months I brought Baby M to an allergist. he was tested and he is not allergic to soy, milk, casein, peanut, egg, fish, shellfish, walnut, cashew or almond!! However due to the severe reaction he had from dairy at 9.5 months, doc said NO dairy or soy until 18 months. he assured me that most if not all kids grow out of this, some just take longer than others.
but at 12 months the GI doc and pedi said to give dairy a try. after just a few days on a few ounces of milk mixed into his formula the tummy issues started about again,surprise surprise. after that all settled down we trialed soy milk. over the course of a few days he drank an entire half gallon of organic soy milk with no issues!!! wow. we transitioned him to organic rice milk and off of alimentum. I have reservations about soy protein in general and therefore decided even though he wasn’t intolerant of soy that I didn’t feel comfortable using it. even though soy milk has the most protein of the alternative milks, I think it’s around 7g/8 oz. whereas almond and coconut are 0-1 g/8 oz. so the main issue with alternative milks is to make sure the child gets enough protein daily since they lack that in comparison to cows milk. I had a hard time making sure M was getting enough calories as well…… breast milk and formula are generally 30 calories/oz. unsweetened almond milk is 30 calories for EIGHT OZ! that is a huge difference! sweetened almond is around 60 calories/8oz. sweetened boxed coconut milk has around 80 calories/8 oz. rice milk is the highest around 120 calories/8oz.
at around 17 months we were out in Boston at an Italian Feast in the North End. we knew another dairy trial was planned at 18 months and Baby M was wanting our arancini and fried calamari so bad, both of which had dairy in them. So we let him have it. Bad idea!! tummy troubles again for 7 days. we had our follow up with the allergist who said to wait on dairy until 2.5 to 3 yrs old. and again he was confident that by then he will out grow it! shortly after we did transition him to mostly almond milk and some coconut milk as I was no longer comfortable with him consuming so much rice d/t to the rising arsenic concerns. I try to stay away from store bought boxed coconut milk b/c of Carrageenan…… also almond breeze almond milk has Carrageenan. all the yogurts have them. Silk brand Pure Almond DOES NOT have Carrageenan, yay! they are also non GMO project certified. I do make my own almond and coconut milks as well when I have the time. canned coconut milk usually doesn’t have Carrageenan in it and you can water it down to make it drinkable like the boxed stuff. though most cans have BPA in them which I am not comfortable with….. native forest and natural value both are BPA free. making my own though also helps control the amount of sugar that is added, since so many of the alternative milks have sugar added to them. BTW coconut milk makes the fluffiest pancakes, much better pancakes then with cows milk! Next on the list to make is hemp milk!
at 26ish months – 6/22/13 – to be exact we went out for dinner and let him eat whatever he wanted. he had a dinner roll, some butter straight from the packet, clam chowder, fried clam strips, french fries…. all sorts of stuff! I held my breath and a few days went by and he was FINE! then he had some fish my MIL cooked with cheese and butter on it! again FINE. after that we just kept letting him have whatever dairy type of food was around without worrying about it. we stayed away from yogurt and straight up milk but if anything was cooked with milk, butter, etc we let him go for it. we went out to a restaurant and he had chicken fingers and fries!!! we went to a birthday party around the 4th of July and he had chocolate chip cookies!!!!!!!!! moving forward around labor day we were at a relatives house and ran out of his almond milk. he had at least 10 oz of skim milk and was FINE! I am still in shock LOL. we did go to a festival in Sept and he had several sips of a frappe and had one episode of watery diarrhea about 24 hrs later but was fine otherwise, so it’s hard to say what that was about?! he is going on 2.5 yrs old now (Oct 2013) and we still have him stay away from drinking regular milk and eating yogurt to be safe but otherwise let him have everything. it has been a long tough journey!
DAIRY FREE FOOD IDEAS:
as a family we mostly stay away from “processed food” but certain things we still eat and try to buy organic if possible. I am not very good at making bread (on the list to try!), also I hear dairy free yogurt isn’t the easiest to make. you can get really good at reading labels! there are many other “safe” processed foods out there…… this is just a basic list of some staples for us. so the products I need to buy and baby M and I are loving:
amande – almond milk yogurt. my whole foods only has the blueberry, strawberry, cherry and peach. all of which taste amazing. hoping to get my hands on the vanilla and coconut flavors!! yummy. this tastes better than the coconut yogurts! even though those taste good too. so delicious now makes an almond milk yogurt as well but it isn’t as tasty as amande
SO delicious coconut yogurt – tried blueberry, chocolate and vanilla so far. update! they now make a “greek style” and it is AMAZING!! trader joes now makes coconut milk yogurt as well – vanilla and blueberry.
I try to stay away from store bought boxed coconut milk b/c of Carrageenan…… also almond breeze almond milk has Carrageenan. all the yogurts have them. Silk brand Pure Almond DOES NOT have Carrageenan, yay! they are also non GMO project certified. I do make my own almond and coconut milks as well when I have the time. canned coconut milk usually doesn’t have Carrageenan in it and you can water it down to make it drinkable like the boxed stuff. though most cans have BPA in them which I am not comfortable with….. native forest and natural value both are BPA free. making my own though also helps control the amount of sugar that is added, since so many of the alternative milks have sugar added to them. BTW coconut milk makes the fluffiest pancakes, much better pancakes then with cows milk! Next on the list to make is hemp milk!
Silk Pure Almond and Silk Pure Coconut – boxed milk both shelf stable and in the refrigerator section.
SO delicious – makes several “drink” products. coconut coffee creamer, hazelnut flavor and french vanilla flavor. cultured coconut milk is thick and creamy like a yogurt drink, comes in plain, vanilla, strawberry and blueberry. it is great for baking. as well as boxed coconut milk both shelf stable and in the refrigerator section.
almond breeze – they make almond and an almond/coconut blend. boxed milk both shelf stable and in the refrigerator section.
rice milk – I think the chocolate flavor is good! the others not so much. Baby M drank this from about 12 months to 17 months b/c it has the most calories of the alternative milks. he got the original enriched organic rice dream or the organic trader joes brand which is the same and cheaper. no added sugar or yuckies. I took him off of rice milk because of all the arsenic info.
7 grain milk
Earth Balance soy free – the only “butter” I found that is both dairy and soy free. they have several versions that are dairy free but not soy free.
Coconut oil – it is WAY better for you and it can replace butter/margarine in anything!
olivio coconut spread, several other brands make coconut spreads as well.
Enjoy Life chocolate chips and chocolate chunks (saved my life!)
purely decadent coconut ice cream, tried mocha almond fudge flavor so far
luna and larry’s coconut milk ice cream. choc hazelnut fudge is my fav!
no pudge brownie mix and the trader joes version of it are both dairy/soy free! just make it with applesauce or coconut/almond yogurt!
oreos are dairy free but not soy free 😦
sorbets (not sherbert! that has dairy)
sourdough breads are usually safe
trader joes has lots of breads that are dairy free! we love the seeded multigrain one (I forget the name of it), the organic soft wheat and the texas toast!
BREAKFAST STUFF (for in a rush!)
earth’s best mini blueberry waffles, one of M’s favorites!!!! whole foods also makes mini blueberry waffles and mini apple cinnamon waffles that are dairy free.
cherrybrook kitchen original pancake mix (also egg free, says to use vegetable oil but I use egg).
bisquick heart healthy pancake mix is also dairy/soy free
bobs red mill high fiber pancake mix
it helps sometimes to look for vegan cookbooks/foods/recipes to at least find things that are dairy free but a lot of them do use soy protein as a dairy alternative. foods with a kosher label are also supposed to be dairy free. also most recipes that call for milk are fine to adapt using an alternative choice
http://www.babycenter.com/baby-poop-photos – baby poop, a visual guide. WARNING: actual pictures of poop! check out #10, that is what happens when there is an allergy/intolerance.
http://dairyfreecooking.about.com/od/dairyfreebasics/u/getstarted.htm – very comprehensive page, with tons of links. a good starting point.
https://spreadsheets.google.com/pub?key=tSt1VyIgb6Li5FMjMer6xZA&single=true&gid=0&output=html – spreadsheet for shopping made by a dairy/soy free mom
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a28510471/mspi_safe_foods_shopping_list – a great shopping list
http://community.babycenter.com/groups/a2095745/dairy-free_moms? – dairy free moms group at babycenter. I was so happy to find this! I read almost every post.
http://www.thefussybabysite.com/coping/non-dairy-diet-and-breastfeeding – great info and lists of foods
http://www.kellymom.com/babyconcerns/food-sensitivity.html – kellymom is a great resource for breastfeeding info.
http://www.kellymom.com/store/freehandouts/hidden-dairy01.pdf – pdf for pocket guide list of dairy and hidden dairy names. essential for food shopping trips!
http://glutenfreesoyfreevegan.wordpress.com/convenience-foods/ – list of convenience foods from a great blog – gluten free, soy free, vegan
http://foodallergies.about.com/od/soyallergies/a/List-Of-Soy-Ingredients-To-Avoid-When-Following-A-Soy-Free-Diet.htm – info on soy free diet and list of soy names and foods
http://feedingfuss.com/got-a-fuss-making-it-work/ – great advice!!
http://www.wholefoodsmarket.com/recipes/search-results.php?specialDietTypeId=2 – whole foods lets you search their recipes according to your special diet.
http://www.kidswithfoodallergies.org/resourcespre.php?id=51 – pdfs for soy ingredients
http://milkfreekids.blogspot.com/2009/08/dairy-containing-ingredients.html – list of dairy and printable card
http://www.zeer.com/products/Home.htm;jsessionid=D6412B2759F0E04287F714EF87771496 – you can look up products and see their ingredients.
https://spreadsheets.google.com/ccc?key=0AmmAxzkd3P44dHQtZ0hPd0wwREdtOVQxYkFNV2kwU3c&hl=en&authkey=CKyAsNcM#gid=0 – spreadsheet from a dairy free mom, comparing the various milk alternatives
milk allergy mom – she is REALLY really awesome! she has a FB page https://www.facebook.com/MilkAllergyMom?ref=ts&fref=ts and a website http://milkallergymom.blogspot.com/
milk free kids – really really awesome. http://milkfreekids.com/
gluten free, soy free, vegan – http://glutenfreesoyfreevegan.wordpress.com/
food allergy reflections – http://dairyfreetoddler.blogspot.com/
color wheel meals – http://rawkinmom.wordpress.com/
bumblebee grace – has some great dairy free recipes.
intolerant offspring – http://intolerantoffspring.com/
food allergy mama – http://www.foodallergymama.com/
feeding fuss – http://feedingfuss.com/
nelle belly – http://nellebelly.blogspot.com/
learning to eat allergy free – http://www.learningtoeatallergyfree.com/